The Kinky Side Of Me

My page features a short 'About Me' on my homepage that tells you a little about the blog and my vision for it, but it doesn't really tell you who I am. It's meant to introduce you quickly to the page but to really get into the intimate topics, I think I need to be intimate with you...interested? 😈

So first things first, I identify as a Kinkster. What is that exactly? According to urbandictionary.com a Kinkster is "someone who enjoys and participates regularly in "kinky" sexual activities." The same source defines Kinky as "something relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes, especially in sex." Basically, it's someone who doesn't get off with just plain ol' vanilla sex. The world is full of kinks, from ones that make sense to downright 'the fuck?' Each kink, if there is someone feeling frisky for it, deserves a place in the world of sex and pleasure. Toys, tools, props, and costumes that aid in more orgasms should be on a pedestal in the sex world but I've found that these things actually make a lot of people uncomfortable. So, adversely, admitting how kinky of a person I am was a struggle for years.

I've been lucky enough to be surrounded in my adult life now by people who I can talk kink with. Not only have these conversations been empowering, they've improved my sex life by making me more comfortable and open about what I enjoy. Finding that sexual empowerment in my personal life made writing a novel in my favorite genre a possibility and led to the creation of a blog where I can freely talk about my favorite subject. Plus, not to mention how many more orgasms I have. To say I am grateful would be a serious fucking understatement.

Exploring the kinkier sides of my sexuality is still a relatively new journey so you'll honestly get to join me as I explore new forms of pleasure but I feel like I have a pretty good grasp on where I am to date. The best way to share that with you is with my bdsmtest.org results.

99% Brat 

98% Brat tamer 

98% Rope bunny 

74% Non-monogamist 

67% Voyeur 

67% Exhibitionist 

66% Dominant 

65% Degradee 

63% Submissive 

63% Experimentalist 

62% Rigger 

60% Masochist 

60% Primal (Prey) 

59% Switch 

54% Master/Mistress 

48% Primal (Hunter) 

46% Ageplayer 

45% Slave 

43% Daddy/Mommy 

43% Vanilla 

35% Sadist 

33% Boy/Girl 

32% Owner 

31% Degrader 

4% Pet 

So for the sake of length here, I'm only going to go into the Highest 5. Honestly, the ones where I score less than 50%, I don't even see being aspects of kink I see myself getting into. But! I guess we'll find out as the journey unfolds!

A Brat is a submissive with an attitude. They often enjoy back talking or rolling their eyes at their partner which often times leads to sexual acts either started by or including a form of 'punishment' such as spanking or perhaps edging. A Brat usually partners well with Master, Dominant, or Daddy types who also rank somewhat high as a Brat Tamer. A Brat gets his or her jabs in but at the end of the day(night), submits to his/her partner, giving them full control of their mind and senses. And all of this describes me to a fucking tee. Tarzan, my lover and fiance, is a highly ranked Dominant with an above 60% score as a Brat Tamer. He wants my personality to shine through but in the end, he makes me his. Any night that starts with witty, teasing banter silenced by his commanding presence putting me in my place is a night I know I am in for seriously wicked fun.

A Brat Tamer is exactly as it sounds; a person with a more dominant side who finds enjoyment in 'taming' the sassy attitude their partner gives them. Unike a Dom or Master/Mistress who scores low as a Brat Tamer, they tolerate and welcome the feisty independence before reminding their partner who's in charge. At first I was bewildered to see myself score damn near equally high as both a Brat and a Brat Tamer because it seemed almost counterintuitive but after some thought, this too is perfectly accurate. My girlfriend, Celeste, also took the test and came up with the exact same top 2 results. This reflects in our relationship as we are both snarky and rebellious as fuck with nothing but respect and love for each other. Our interactions aren't ever in dom/sub scenarios but we definitely take turns caring for each other. I also see Brat Tamer in me in my fantasy to bring another girl into mine and Tarzan's relationship. If the stars should ever align, we hope to find a female to be mostly my Brat whilst he and I maintain our own Dom/Brat dynamic.

Ahh, Rope Bunny. Imagine laying there totally still as silk rope, soft material, or hell, twine if you're into that, glides across your bare skin to end in tightening your limbs helplessly above or behind you. You know and trust the person doing the tying and now you're completely at their mercy. If that mental image doesn't turn you on, you're not a Rope Bunny.

I laughed but was unsurprised at Non-Monogamist being my fourth highest score. I feel if you know the definition of monogamy, this Kink needs no explanation. Is it true about me? Well considering I just told you about Tarzan and Celeste, who have no physical relationship with each other, and my desire to bring a woman to the bed I share with Tarzan...again, no further explanation is necessary. Do I believe some couples can explore all ends of their sexual exploits with just one partner? YES! I on one hand, just enjoy the idea of multiple partners.

Voyeur and Exhibitionist ranked equal on my list and being so similar in nature, I figured why not treat them to the same kind of love? A Voyeur is someone who likes to watch other people engage in sexual activities while an Exhibitionist is someone who likes to be watched while performing sexual activities. Tarzan and I have recently been planning a night at a sex club we researched where private rooms are available to us should we want them. We plan to go there in hopes of meeting a young woman who will find pleasure in the arrangement we offer but I would be lying if I didn't admit to wanting to watch, learn from, and enjoy others while maybe also inspiring others to let loose. Sex is an art and to those with the trained eye, it's something to share and enjoy freely in my opinion.

If you're curious about what kind if kink you are, visit bdsmtest.org! Share your results with me! I want to know how kinky all of you are! 💋